4 huge Reasons NOT TO START YOUR BUSINESS

If you're reading this I'm going to go ahead and stop you immediately.

I have absolutely 0 intention of telling you reasons you should delay starting your business.

In fact, shame on you for clicking on this article, and wanting someone to tell you to quit your dream.

Nevertheless I'm glad you are here.

Look here's the truth, if you took the time to start to read this it means you are having hesitations about whether starting your business now is the right move. I've been there, in fact, I still come across these hesitations but that's perfectly okay.

The fact is, you may always have these hesitations creep up on you.

The trick is to be able to work in spite of them. 

In all honesty, if you had a strong enough reason for not starting your business you wouldn't have clicked on this article. You would already know without a doubt that it wasn't right, but because you are here, it is proof enough that now is the time to get started. Now is the time to work through your doubts. Obstacles will come and you WILL learn how to work despite of these challenges. 

Don't let this article be another snack your internet information binge. Let this article be the pivotal point in which YOU CHOOSE to take action right NOW.  So let's talk.


Fake Reasons You Aren't Ready to Start Your Biz

 

It's not the right time

  • The kids are too young, you just want to enjoy motherhood.
  • Life is too busy, maybe when you can cut your work hours down to part time.
  • Starting a business is pricey, once you are able to invest more money into your business. 

All of the above are perfectly legitimate reasons.... and they are also all excuses.

See here's the problem. If you have to justify urge to live the life you want and start your business just to console yourself then you truly are doing no one any favors. 

You and I both know this one truth. Timing will NEVER be perfect. If you are waiting for "better" time now then get comfortable with a lot of waiting and even more regret. Look you owe it to yourself, get started NOW! Face the obstacles. You are a bad ass, you can handle the challenge can't you? People have carved a path towards success with less resources then you have right now, time included. 

Grin and grit girl. Learn to hone in on your lady grit, and grin through all the bad and hard parts knowing that every challenge you choose to face, and that every moment you choose not to quit or worse...wait means that you are bound for dreams to come true. 
 

ACTION ITEMS

  • Write down all the reasons why the timing doesn't feel right
    (e.g. my kids are young, my job is too demanding, my husband wouldn't support me)
  • Write down underlaying emotional worries
    (e.g. I always miss my family, and already feel like we don't have enough quality time. I don't want my family to suffer if I take on something new.  I'm falling behind at work and feeling drained. My husband is really concerned about what life would be like if I start a business. 
  • Reflect & Address those obstacles
  • (e.g. My kids are young but what really concerns me is missing out on them growing up if I'm too consumed with my new business.
    My work is demanding but I also spend a lot of time working at home and taking on extra projects I could easily delegate.
    My husband isn't supportive but he doesn't understand entrepreneurship and doesn't know how important his support would be. He is also concerned about the extra workload he will have to take on with the house and kids.)
  • Write down tangible changes you can make
    (e.g. I could block out time specifically for quality time with my kids and only work during times I set aside for work.
    I will decline taking on extra unnecessary projects and take up the chance to delegate. I will be more intentional with my time at work, in effort to not waste time and avoid having to complete work tasks at home.
    My husband and I haven't had the chance to discuss my entrepreneur goals, I will make dedicated time to share my plans with him and hear his concerns. We will regularly reflect and discuss ways we can improve harmony and balance.)

 


 

I need to learn more

Do you ever notice the deep satisfaction you get when you stumble across a really helpful article suddenly teaching you something you "needed" before you started your business. You feel so prepared, inspired, productive. 

Hate to be the one to break it to you but those fluffy happy feelings are bullsh*t. Sorry! I know it feels good. I feel that way too BUT in this day and age information is everywhere.

Smart or not, binging on information is no more productive than binging on Netflix. 

It's easy to want to feed into our hunger for more information but here's the thing.

Without action, information is just empty calories, and binging on it won’t nourish your dreams.
— Cora, Joy Creature

ACTION ITEMS

  • Write down a running list of ALL things you need to learn
  • Mark "F" next to foundation items. 
    These are things which are absolutely essential to start, I mean bare bones necessary?
  • Mark "S" next to support items.
    These are things are extremely useful towards creating a strong start? These are not absolutely essential, but will make a big impact in the start of your business. 
  • Mark "E" next to enhancer items. 
    These are items that aren't necessary to start nor extremely impactful for strengthening your start but can enhance your business at some point.

 

MY goals are selfish

I like the word selfish.

Yep, in fact, I feel really proud of the moments I am selfish with my goals.  If you feel your goals are selfish, congratulations!  You are on the right track.

As women and mothers we are compelled to nurture others. Without blinking we will make a personal sacrifice at the opportunity to help a loved one but when it comes to doing something for our self goals we hesitate and contemplate.

I urge you to fight the instinct to take care of everyone else first. Remember that all of these goals centered towards self have huge benefits that will trickle down to all of those people you love but you'll never get there if you don't put on your own oxygen mask first. 

How functional can any entrepreneur be if they stop in their tracks every time someone else can possibly benefit from their help? 

That is a TON of distractions. 

If you don't commit to your own goals and the action items necessary to get there then you will spend your entire life at the beck and call of others.

You absolutely must block out time for your business and COMMIT to it!

When you first start out as an entrepreneur you will likely fit the role of both the boss AND the employee. As a boss you must task yourself. As an employee you must meet your task deadlines. 

In a traditional 9-5, not doing your job just gets you fired. You can still look for another job. In entrepreneurship, not doing your job means you killing your dream over and over.
— Cora, Joy Creature

ACTION ITEMS

  • List the number one thing that leaves you with the most guilt
  • Reflect on the source of this guilt and decide whether this is "healthy guilt" or "unproductive guilt" and jot down any feelings
  • Decide action you can take towards alleviate guilt
  • List reasons guilt is not warranted and why you should
  • List something good that can come from the "selfish" thing you feel guilty about

i don't have the personality

I'm not disciplined.
I'm bad at managing my time.
I'm too introverted. 
Does stuff like that sound familiar? Maybe it's true, maybe it's not. Either way, it is irrelevant! 

There are millions of entrepreneurs out there doing well and lovin' what they do and you know what, they don't all have the same personality! Do you think there isn't an person out there who started a business that is doing well and ISN'T an introvert? Bad with time? Not disciplined? 

Look, first if part of your personality is holding you back, change it! Yes, your personality is 100% a choice. If not, learn to work around it!

Are you bad with your time? Learn ways to manage your time or solicit someone to help you stay timely.

You are introverted? Fake it til you make it and get out there when you need to! OR craft a business that can do well inspite of introverted tendancies. 

Look, all I'm saying is there are plenty of personality types you could model after. You don't need to aim for perfection to get started. You also don't need to feel stuck in your personality habits either.

ACTION ITEM

  • 1 part of your personality you draw strength fro in entrepreneurship
  • 1 personality feature you wish you had
  • Something you could do to work towards personality habits you wish you had
  • In the AM think about this personality habit and write ways you will implement small habits to build this into your personality. In the PM reflect on how you did. 

*draft* Are you sure you want happiness?

The Happiness Or Joy Choice

Funny enough, sometimes to ability to stop drowning is often as simple as just standing up and recognizing the water wasn’t that deep.
— Cora, Joy Creature

Quick, answer this question. Are you sure happiness is the answer?

I'll assume you answered yes, otherwise you probably wouldn't have kept reading. I'm going to question this notion that happiness is what you're really after. See here's why; happiness is a fleeting feeling. Happiness is often triggered by outside situations and experiences and can fade as quickly as it comes. That sudden rush of emotion fills you up and once the rush is gone it leaves you feeling empty, deflated, and longing for more. Joy on the other hand, is a whole different creature in itself. It is created from something inside you, joy is a conscious chosen state of being rather than a situation or experience happening to you outside of your own willpower. While happiness is a fleeting feeling, joy sustains. 

I can't even tell you the number of times someone has told me they feel as if they were drowning.

It's as if the people who need joy the most are lost and wading in the middle of the ocean hoping to wash up on an island but ignoring the boat meters beside them that could paddle them to shore.

I see their pain though, it is hard to want to keep swimming when an island isn't even in sight.

If all you are surrounded by is the deep dark blue, how likely are you to keep treading. It's no surprise then that many of us make the choice to drown or sometimes what is worse, just float along.

It's not the only choice though, instead of wading around hoping happiness will appear, swim towards joy.

Funny enough, sometimes the ability to stop drowning is often as simple as just standing up and recognizing the water wasn't that deep. The same reason why Dr. Brogan says, "anti-depressants can work but only if you believe they will."

It starts with our beliefs and continues with our choices. If you want to live joyously you have to first decide you will create your own joy and then continue to make that decision over and over and over again, let it sustain, and let yourself be.  

 

*draft* Reasons you fail and they succeed

The Voices Inside Your Head

I have them and you know what, I don't think it's crazy for me to say you have them too.

The question is


Are you paying attention to what's being said?

Who is in control?

Do you think it's How to make sure you are in control by pausing and paying attention to feelings and understanding where it's coming from. How to acknowledge feelings without festering in them. 

What a Girl Wants

The difference between what you think you want and what you actually want. Ways you self sabotage. Like that jerk boyfriend you once loved who made you feel terrible but yet it was so hard to leave him. Stop trusting that you have your own best interest in hand. *link to why you are your worst enemy*. 

Obstacles and Barriers

Fake excuses

*Draft* Obstacle or Barrier? If you don't you what's which you're screwed

Obstacle

 

When I was 19, I joined the military's best kept secret, the branch many forget exists. That is, The United Sates Coast Guard.

Yes I was in the military, (and if you didn't know, yes we are a branch of the military, and no, it's not the same as the national guard).

I remember marching around the base and passing by "The Confidence Course". Week by week, day by day we'd pass by the obstacle course. It looked hard. Truthfully, as the more time went by  the more terrifying it seemed but so many parts of me couldn't wait to give it a go. 

The thing about obstacles is they were never meant to stop you. They were built to challenge you, test you, and prove to you that you deserve what’s on the other side...but only if you earn it. So tell me, what do you deserve?
— Elle, JoyCreature.com
 

Barrier

 

*Draft* Guilt & Girl Power

When Guilt Grows Up

There is something happening to us gals that we need to talk about.  An epidemic happening to women all over. There's a chance you too have been plagued. This pathogenic like epidemic sucks the life force out of us, and is affecting more woman than men, and giving us an unfair disadvantage when it comes to leveling up. 

Susan Carrell, author of Escaping Toxic Guilt, said: ‘Women feel guilt when they don’t think they are being good enough in their various roles – especially as wife, mother and daughter.

‘That’s because familial, cultural and religious tenets teach women that being “good” is the most important thing. 

‘When a woman feels she is not putting another first, she quickly feels like she’s doing something bad, then guilt rushes in.’

Though sometimes guilt can guide us and teach us



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Guilt Factor

 

When you are working on your business do you feel guilt because the house is out of order?

Do you feel torn between playing with the kids or meeting a deadline?

If you are good at managing feelings of guilt it's a good sign that you are able to manage priorities and balance your time.

If you regularly feel guilty when others call on you or when you are presented with multiple options than you are more likely to feel drained from not being able to focus and build energy around your business tasks. 

There is hope though, if you can figure out where this guilt is rooted, there is a good chance that you will see your productivity and energy spike as long as you take action. * IF THIS IS YOU CLICK HERE NOW

 
 

How Influenced By Guilt Are You?

I am easily guilted into changing plans

 
 

THE GUILT HIGH ADDICTION 

I think it's about time that we talk about something.
I think you have a problem. 
I think you are addicted to guilt. You get a high off it, and you're addicted to it. There I said it. 
This is your intervention.
But Elle, what are you talking about? I hate guilt. Guilt sucks. Why would I get a high off of guilt? 
Let me explain. See I do it too, so here's what happens for me. 

In the morning I sit at my desk. I start working on an important work project. Just as I'm getting in my work flow this sweet little girl comes waltzing in, toys in arms, and wanting to play. She'll tug at my arm and beg. 

And beg. 
And beg.
And beg, and beg, and beg.

Next thing you know it's 2:30PM and I'm still playing hide go seek with this tiny human who seems to think I won't find her behind the curtain after the 18th time hiding there. 

Do you know why this happens? 
It's because when we cave, and succumb to the needs of another we feel philanthropic. We feel like a martyr. We foolishly believe we will regret  not caring for SOMEONE or SOMETHING else first then accept our own personal losses.

It's easy to do, but here's the real problem.

When our life and plans fail we can at least say we weren't to blame. It's because everyone else! It's not our fault right? *eyeroll. WRONG. You are not too busy caring for our families, our friends, our work, our blah blah blah. You are too busy not prioritizing. 

Don't let yourself feel the high from guilt relief. INSTEAD stick with your priorities and FEEL GOOD about doing that! 

I'll repeat. 

STICK WITH YOUR PLANS
AND
FEEL GOOD ABOUT DOING THAT

I’m not telling you to stop caring and loving people. I’m telling you to respect your own time as much as your respect your time for them.
— Cora, Joy Creature

Block out time for YOU in your schedule the same way you block out time for others. 

If you mark " Dinner with Kris @ 5:15" in your planner, or "Take kids to the pool" on your calendar then you better damn well be putting "Read Book, and Meditate" and "Finish Project" on your schedule too! 

Not doing so, does no one any favors. 

 

ARE YOU A MAGIC GENIE?

If you're always putting everyone else and their wishes first you know where your wishes and needs come? Need I say more?

So why do we do this. See the thing is, this isn't new. It's not the first time you've thought about it but it's never the last time you do it either. 

The difference between a successful person who loves their life and gets fufillment out of everyday is they know the right things to do AND they do it! 

You are not a magic genie, it is not your job to grant people wishes and you know what? Even genies set limits on wishes so you should be to! 

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